I want to cut toxic father out of my life – I won’t stand for criticism and lies

DEAR DEIDRE: I WANT to cut my toxic father out of my life, but guilt is holding me back.

I’m 40, and the eldest son of four children.

My earliest memories are of Dad shouting at me or calling me names.

Things were slightly better when mum was alive because she’d stand up for me.

Since she died, Dad treats me like an unpaid carer.

I’m expected to help with shopping, cleaning and giving him lifts. But he does nothing in return.

When...