Masculinity wars miss the point – here’s where the real battle is being fought

On any given day, there's plenty of airtime dedicated to what's apparently the burning issue of our time: how to make men gentler, softer and more in tune with... well, something. 

It's almost comical – a parade of bubble dwellers, angry women and preening men who serve in the military-industrial complex of the culture wars, lecturing the rest of us on what masculinity should look like. 

But here's the thing: that conversation is a luxury only available to those who aren't neck-deep in the grind of real life ...