My wife’s biggest fantasy is making me feel small

DEARE DEIDRE: My wife fantasises about having sex with a very well-endowed man. In her fantasy she wants me to sit and watch but not to join in.

She then said that my penis size frustrated her and has done for years and most of her problems with sex are due to me being too small to satisfy her.

I am 52 and my wife is 44. We have been together for 15 years.

I know I am quite small and in some respects I am relieved to hear her honesty.

In the past she has struggled to be open with me.