I thought wanting to be successful was selfish. Starring on 'The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives' changed that.

Jen Affleck shares how starring in "The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives" helped her.

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• Jen Affleck is a mom of three, a reality TV star, and an influencer.
• She says being on TV helped her think about what she wants, not just what others expect.
• She wants her kids to experience challenges and grow through them.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Jen Affleck, who stars on Hulu's "The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives".