Asking Eric: I do the housework, and my wife gives me unwanted tutorials

Dear Eric: My wife and I have been married for more than 40 years. She’s great. But a reoccurring point of friction and, really, anger on my part is over the dishwashing and laundry at our house. She’ll let them accumulate beyond what I can stand.

So, long ago, I began just doing all of my own laundry and cleaning up the kitchen.

Most spouses, I think, would be happy with that, right? But as I am doing either of those tasks she breaks in with lectures about how I am not doing things right.