I was told to cover my shoulders at my first finance job. Now I share tips about how to dress at work.

Arielle Sotiropoulos said she tktk.

Arielle Sotiropoulos

• Arielle Sotiropoulos said she felt humiliated after being told to cover her shoulders at work.
• Sotiropoulos said the feedback changed the way she showed up at her job.
• She said she doesn't want to be remembered by how she looks, whether it's positive or negative.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Arielle Sotiropoulos, a 30-year-old client relationship executive at a professional services company.