Asking Eric: We didn’t have a fight but I haven’t seen my boyfriend in 8 months

Dear Eric: I have been with my boyfriend for 14 years. We live about 15 minutes’ drive apart.

He is widowed and I’m divorced. We each have one adult son. Mine is 31 and his is 40.

I haven’t met his son or any friends/family members, though he knows mine.

My boyfriend says he had an abusive dad, and he doesn’t much like his two siblings or their families. He only has one real friend but won’t introduce us.

I asked him why once and he said he “likes his privacy.” I put...