How much work is too much in a relationship?

If you’ve been to an engagement party, bridal shower, or wedding, you’ve probably heard a well-meaning relative offer these sage words of wisdom: Marriage is work. Hard work. Persistent work. A lifelong project. The adage is instructive, but it’s also a warning — this relationship will try your patience, and for it to endure, you must be willing to put forth the effort.

This is undeniably true. All relationships require maintenance to survive. No two people will ever see eye-to-eye on everything...