My married lover is too scared to leave his family for me – should I give him ultimatum?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY married lover and I are enjoying an electric affair – but he is worried about how his daughter, who is a similar age to me, would react if he were to leave his family.

It’s lovely that he is caring and concerned about her but all I can think is — what about me?

We’ve been meeting for secret sex for over four months now and he often talks about how he wants us to be together.

I’m deeply in love with him and can’t see a way through this.

I’m 26 and my lover is 45.