I’m lesbian and don’t want to lose my wife – but I can’t seem to stop cheating on her with men

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wonderful wife and I are lesbians and have been happily married for nine years. So why am I constantly cheating on her, with men?

We’re both in our forties and our own sex life is great. We know each other’s bodies and responses so we are always mutually satisfied in bed.

It’s loving and romantic, and afterwards we cuddle up and fall asleep wrapped in each other’s arms.

So I don’t understand why, every few months, I place an ad on a no-strings hook-up...