My childhood friend invited me to their destination wedding. I turned it down because I wasn't given a plus-one.

A wedding I once wouldn't miss for the world turned out to have a dealbreaker.

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• I was willing to attend my friend's destination wedding until I learned I wouldn't get a plus-one.
• I'm single, but I would've felt more inclined to attend if I could've brought a friend.
• An etiquette coach told me it's fair for the bride to limit plus-ones and for me not to attend.

When I was invited to a friend's three-day wedding celebration in Colombia, I was ready to book my flights.