I've always had a difficult relationship with my mom, but now I'm her caregiver. I'm struggling to set new boundaries with her.

The author (not pictured) is the caregiver for her mother.

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• My mother and I have always had a difficult relationship, but now I'm her caregiver.
• As she shows signs of dementia, I have to care for her, my kids, and my own health.
• I'm learning to set boundaries so that I don't run myself into the ground.

I came from a strict religious family where, as a woman, I was encouraged to get married, stay home, and take care of the kids. My...