We give our kids full autonomy over decisions parents usually control, like when to go to bed. It helps my family thrive.

The author, gives her children (not pictured) control over decisions that many parents would prefer to oversee, like bedtime.

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• With diagnoses of autism, ADHD, and anxiety, my family has diverse needs.
• Traditional parenting methods failed my family, leading to stress and more anxiety for all of us.
• We found that giving our kids autonomy helps foster confidence and emotional regulation.

Parenting in my house doesn't look like it does for most families.