Alternating custody over holidays was tough. My son now spends time with both me and his dad, and it works better for everyone.

Courtesy of Ashley Archambault

When my son was little, his father and I went through a custody trial and agreed on a holiday-sharing schedule. It outlined that if my son spent a holiday with me, the following year, he would spend that same holiday with his dad. So if I got Christmas Eve and Day with him one year, the next, his father would spend those days with him.

Initially, my son's father...