I need financial support from my daughter’s dad – but fear him demanding visiting rights

DEAR DEIDRE: FOR the past nine years, I have provided everything my daughter has needed.

But it would be nice to have some financial support so I am considering approaching her dad for some child maintenance.

I’m so torn because he walked away from us soon after she was born.

He didn’t want a third child and said he couldn’t afford it.

He hasn’t made any effort to be a part of her life since and to be honest, while it has been hard financially, at least she isn’t getting messed around by him.