I paid for my engagement ring, and my husband picked out my wedding dress. We've always gone against gender norms.

Courtesy of Wendi Gordon

• My husband and I got married just weeks after meeting, and I bought our wedding rings.
• Our marriage has defied gender roles because he cooks, and I pay the bills.
• We are now starting new careers in our 50s, further defying social norms.

From the beginning, nothing about my relationship with my husband, Steve, was "normal."

We met in 1990 and fell for each other quickly.