I was horrified when I caught my 12-year-old having sex

DEAR DEIDRE: When I walked in on my daughter in bed with her female friend, I was horrified.

She is only 12 and far too young to be having sex. But I fear my shocked reaction wasn’t helpful, and now we’re barely talking.

I’m 43 and a single mother. I also have a son, aged 10.

My daughter went through puberty early but has never shown any interest in boys or girls, so I had no idea she was thinking about sex.

After I caught her, I shouted ‘What the hell are you doing?’...