DEAR DEIDRE: My partner left me and went back to his home country when I miscarried our child.
We met in a cafe. He’s 30 and he gave me his number and arranged for me to call at his house the following night.
His housemate let me in but my soon-to-be partner didn’t show up until really late and he’d been drinking.
He was cross when I was there so I left. He texted me to ask out the next week and then things were better. We had sex together and he asked me to move in.