My lover can’t make up her mind between me and another man

DEAR DEIDRE: My lover can’t make up her mind between me and another man.

When I met her five years ago, I was convinced I’d finally met the one.
When the pandemic happened we ended up having to stay with our individual families – it forced us apart.

She took the isolation hard and ended up moving in with the wrong guy.

I’m 46 and she’s 43. Her boyfriend is also in his 40s.

Three years on, and she’s still with him even though she doesn’t want to be. She’s tried to end things three times...