I love my partner but I hate spending time in her house

DEAR DEIDRE: I WOULD love to spend more time with my partner but I don’t want to go to her house because the atmosphere there is awful. 

She was in an abusive relationship previously and her children have had a very tough life.

They are 12 and 13 and are very poorly behaved – extremely disrespectful and rude. I have two children from my previous relationship and they could not be more different.

I am 44 and my partner is 42. We have been together for almost three years.