My husband does not want to have oral sex with me and I miss it so much

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband does not want to have oral sex with me and I miss it so much.

I’m 35 and he is 40.

We’ve been together for ten years and got married two years ago.

No matter what I do, my husband never wants to pleasure me through foreplay.

I’ll try and hint that I would like oral sex, but he always makes an excuse and switches the subject.

Despite this he’s always up for intercourse, which never makes me orgasm.

I only ever climax through self-pleasure or oral sex.