I love my wife but our sex life is lame

DEAR DEIDRE: I love my wife with all of my heart but I’ve had enough of our boring and tedious sex life.

All I want is to feel close to her again, but every time we get intimate it feels like a chore and she refuses to talk about spicing things up.

I’m 52, she’s 49 and we’ve been married for 20 years.

Over the last few years, the sexual spark between us has died.

We often go weeks, if not months without having sex, and when we do it feels as if she can’t wait for it to be over.