Why won’t my lover commit to me after leaving his wife?

DEAR DEIDRE: Hearing that my married lover had finally left his wife, I felt ecstatic about getting this gorgeous man all to myself – at last.

But after eight months of the most frustrating situationship, I’m beginning to feel like I was better off as his mistress.

At least I knew my place then.

The last thing I want to do is scare him off but living in a constant state of limbo is making me miserable.

I’m 38, my lover is 43.

I travel to London...