The 1 Word Therapists Say You Need To Stop Using With Yourself

According to therapists, "shoulding" yourself — or saying that you should do this and should do that — can lead to guilt and shame.

If you’ve ever uttered sentences like “I should really spend some time cleaning,” “I should just get over this already” or “I should work on my presentation,” you may be “shoulding” yourself, according to therapists.

“Shoulding yourself is a cognitive distortion, and ... so many of us often engage in it,” said Carrie Howard, a licensed clinical social...