My husband says his virtual affair doesn’t count as cheating

DEAR DEIDRE: My husband has blamed his affair with a former work colleague on being made redundant and says that virtual sex doesn’t count as a proper affair. 

I don’t agree and the way he’s treated me has made me feel worthless, but the other problem is I don’t even believe him.

He’s cheated on me before but until I had concrete evidence he wouldn’t admit to a thing. 

He has been pushing me away over the last few months, looking at me as though he doesn’t even like me, let alone love me.