I started having sex at 36. I missed out on years of self-discovery but I still don't regret waiting.

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• I didn't plan on being a 36-year-old virgin, but I believed in the purity plan. 
• My ex-fiance broke up with me a month before our wedding leaving me at 31 and horny. 
• When I started having sex with my partner I struggled with feelings of inadequacy.

We laid shirtless on his bed. The room was dark. Thoughts kept running through my head, "Should I tell him? Do I owe him that conversation yet?