Where is my husband’s backbone?

DEAR DEIDRE: My husband refuses to discuss any issues in our relationship, and I’m sick of it.

He prefers to bury his head in the sand, fooling himself that if he ignores a problem it will just go away.

I’m 58 and he’s 60. We’ve been together for 35 years and have two grown-up children, who have now left home.

Throughout our marriage, any problem we’ve had has gone unresolved.

If I’m upset about something he’s done, he either tells me to shut up or he just...