I suspected my wife was cheating but never dreamed she would have an affair with a woman – I’m devastated

DEAR DEIDRE: I NEVER dreamed that my wife would have an affair with another woman.

Although I suspected she was cheating, I didn’t know she was a lesbian. I’m devastated.

I’m 48 and she’s 46. We’ve been married for 19 years and have two teenage children.

Over the past few years, since the pandemic, our relationship has been difficult.

We both started working from home and found it claustrophobic. Our sex life, which was already on the wane, died almost entirely.