Ask Amy: I went to my boyfriend’s house for the first time and was appalled

Dear Amy: I am a middle-aged single woman and recently started seeing a man my age.

I was married for 20 years, and he has never been married. My two children are in college.

He is a really sweet, smart and respectful man. We share a lot of common interests.

He recently invited me to his home for the first time and … it is fairly disgusting. Not just messy, but very dirty and unhealthy – with food waste and dirty dishes and pots on the counters.

I’m unsure about what to say to him about the state of his house.