What some caregivers have learned caring for ill loved ones

“It’s not the most comfortable moment that I’m having, but there are these radical lessons.”

That’s how performer/writer Chris Wells describes the experience of moving with his husband from New York back to his childhood home in Lancaster, Calif. What was intended to be a short-term visit to help settle his mother into a retirement community has been extended and complicated by her frailty, and the challenges of untangling a complex web of social and medical services.

And then there’s Elizabeth Aquino in Los Angeles...