My girlfriend’s inability to keep a job is ruining our relationship

DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my girlfriend with all of my heart but her inability to keep a job is ruining our relationship.

How can I focus on building a future with someone who can barely afford to pay her share of the rent?

I’m 37 and she’s 34.

We’ve been together nine years and since the beginning she has been in and out of work, swapping jobs every few months.

I assumed this was something that would change as we grew up.

Things would always follow the same pattern.