I feel used as my husband’s need for kinky sex is becoming more extreme

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my partner suggested we add some mild S&M to our relationship, I was only too happy to oblige.

But now his demands for kinky sex are becoming more extreme, and I feel used and unloved.

We’ve been together for five years. I’m 29 and he’s 31.

He’s always had a high sex drive, as have I, so for the first few years of our relationship, I’d have said our sex life was great.

We’d do it all over the house — in the kitchen, bathroom, living room and garden ...